? Kira情景假设
面试者正在申请一个教育学学位，最终目标是有朝一日能成为一名教育工作者，在做Kira的面试时，面试者拿到的问题是”你最大的劣势详解？”
? Kira面试模拟解析
每个人都有缺点，而且可能不止一个。对于很多人来说，有一个缺陷是无法拒绝他人的请求，这导致我们承担很多能力范围之外的事。这里，小鸥就以这个point为例，作为面试者的弱点进行回答。
首先，你需要用一个具体的例子来解释这个弱点，说明是在什么时候最深刻地感受到这个局限性。
※ 示例（附译文，仅供参考）：
One thing Ive really struggled with is saying ‘no’ to others. I often want to do everything I can to help the people in my life; however, Ive started to realize that sometimes doing so much for others can leave me stretched too thin.
“真正令我感到为难的一件事是对他人说’不’。我经常倾尽我所能帮助我周边的人；但我也开始意识到，有时为别人做太多事会让我有点力不从心。
For example, last summer, I was taking 2 college prep courses, working a near full-time job (35 hours per week), volunteering as a tutor for 10 hours per week, working on a community garden plot in my neighborhood, and playing volleyball with a close team that Ive played with for several years. Looking back, its so clear to me now that this was way too much to try to take on, but at the time, I thought Id be able to manage it.
例如，去年夏天，我参加了两门大学预科课程、做了一份近乎全职的工作（每周35小时）、每周做10小时的家教志愿者、在我家附近的社区花园工作、还和一个很要好的球队打排球。现在回过头来看，我才发现，一人承担这些事情实在是有点负荷了。但在当时，我觉得自己能够应付得过来。
Unfortunately, it wasnt long before my grades started to slip, I was running late to work or volleyball practice on a semi-regular basis, and some days, I was just too tired to put in my best effort in the garden or with my volleyball team. As well, I was personally not feeling very well, both physically and mentally, as the one thing that was consistently sacrificed was my own self-care.
不幸的是，没过多久，我的成绩就开始下滑了，我上班或排球训练还经常迟到，有的时候，我真的很累，我也无法在社区花园工作、排球队里打球时尽自己最大的努力。此外，我的身体和精神状态也都出现了一些问题，因为有一件事一直被我牺牲掉了，那就是照顾我自己”。
接着，继续讨论我已经（或正在）努力改进的方法：
※ 示例（附译文，仅供参考）：
One day, a few of my co-workers approached me, concerned about my well-being and my performance at work; a few days later, two of my teammates said something similar. It was then that I really realized that, in not taking care of myself and my own needs both personal and academic I was also unable to put in 100% for my team, my co-workers, my students, or my fellow volunteers.
“有一天，我的几个同事找到我，慰问了我的健康状况，还顺带聊了一下工作；而后几天，我的两个排球队队友也跟我说了类似的话。就在那时，我真正意识到，在没有照顾好自己和自己需求（包括个人和学术需求）的情况下，我也无法为我的团队、我的同事、我的学生或我的志愿者同伴投入100%的精力。
I knew I needed to make some changes, so I met with my co-workers to see if I could shave off a few hours here and there each week, without causing them any undue stress. I spoke with my course instructors to explain the gaps in my performance, and they kindly allowed me to submit some extra credit work. As well, I started holding tutoring sessions at my house, rather than travelling to students houses, as this saved me a lot of time and effort from commuting.
我知道我急需做出一些改变，所以我与我的同事商量，看看我是否可以在不给他们造成额外压力的情况下，每周减少出勤几个小时。我还与我的课程导师交谈，解释了我成绩下滑的原因，导师很友好地允许我提交一些额外的学分作业进行弥补。此外，我开始在自己家里给学生进行家教辅导，而不是去学生家里，这为我节省了很多通勤的时间和精力。
These small changes added up to a significant amount of relief. I was able to fulfill the rest of my commitments that summer, and I pulled my grades back up by getting high scores on the remaining work and completing the extra credit assignments. Needless to say, this was a huge wake-up call. I felt awful letting my team, students, teachers, and co-workers down, and I was so thankful for the interventions that led to me re-structuring my time.
这些小变化加起来，让我的状态得到了极大的改善。那年夏天，我得以履行其余的承诺，并通过在剩余的作业中获得高分和完成额外的学分作业将我的成绩拉了回来。毫无疑问，这件事警醒了我。我很抱歉让我的团队、学生、老师和同事失望了，我非常感谢那些使我意识到需要重新规划我的时间的插曲。
I hadnt yet realized the impact that being over-worked could have on the people in my life the very people I was working so hard to help. Now, I am very careful and strategic in how I manage my time, and I dont commit to anything if I know that I wont be able to give it 100% of my effort at all times.
（在此之前），我都没有意识到工作过度可能会对我生活中的人产生影响，而且这些人正是我努力工作想要帮助的人。现在，我在如何管理我的时间方面非常谨慎且也有了一定的策略，如果我知道我不能在任何时候付出100%的努力，我就不会承诺做任何事情。”
最后，以这个事件作为触发点，继续反思，为什么对我来说，特别对于一个有抱负的未来教育家而言，解决这个弱点是如此重要。
※ 示例（附译文，仅供参考）：
Burnout is incredibly, and increasingly, common for educational professionals. As a teacher, instructor, or professor, for example, youre constantly pulled in many different directions at once, and its important to be able to balance doing everything you can for others, while also setting boundaries to protect yourself. Burnout is not only problematic for the person experiencing it, it also directly impacts everyone who relies on that person for support and collaboration. If Im devoting too many of my resources to others and not replenishing myself, I wont be able to continue like this and I will burn out. If I burn out, then Im not helping anyone myself, my family, my colleagues, my students, and so on.
“对于教育专业者来说，职业倦怠是无法令人相信的，而且这种现象越来越普遍。例如，作为一名教师、讲师或教授，你会不断地被拉到许多不同的方向，但最重要的是要能够平衡为他人做的一切，同时也要设定界限来保护自己。倦怠不仅对经历它的人来说是个问题，它也会直接影响到依赖该人支持和合作的其他人。如果我把太多的资源投入到别人身上而不充实自己，我就无法继续工作，我会开始倦怠。一旦我倦怠了，那么我就没有办法帮助任何人–我自己、我的家人、我的同事、我的学生，等等。
Setting boundaries and saying ‘no’ sometimes is necessary. I cant help others if Im not helping myself, and if Im spreading myself too thin, then Im not bringing 100% to the projects I do take on, which means the quality of my work overall could suffer, and I could let others down. On the other hand, if I simply set and maintain that boundary, its likely that someone else would be able to step into that role and fulfill it 100%. So, it is in my own best interest to work on this limitation, and it would be in my future students and colleagues best interests, too.
设定界限，有时说 “不 “是必要的。如果我不帮助自己，就不能帮助别人，如果我把自己的精力分散得太厉害，那么我就不能百分之百地完成我所承担的项目，这意味着我的工作质量可能会受到影响，而且我可能会让别人失望。另一方面，如果我简单地设定并保持这一界限，那么很可能会有其他人能够介入这一角色并100%地完成它。所以，在这个限制上下功夫符合我自己的最佳利益，也符合我未来的学生和同事的最佳利益。”
可以看到，仅仅是这一个答案中就传达了多少种品质。面试者不仅承认了自己的局限性，还展示了自我意识和改进能力。在回答中，面试者讨论了一些自己正在努力尝试改善的地方，表现出了继续学习和努力的热忱。从表面上看是虽然是关于面试者自己的事情，但面试者也说明了ta对他人的影响，强调了ta对自己和他人的道德责任感，同时也使这项自我工作在本质上以学生为中心，也以自我为中心。
此外，面试者还注意到能够与他人一起工作，并为他人工作是ta提高自我的一个关键原因，这突出了ta十分注重同事关系并且拥有强烈的团队意识。面试者还承认，当ta的工作负担过重时，其他人可以承担一些工作，这表明面试者足够谦虚，知道其他人确实可以做ta所做的事情，而且做得很成功。这一点凸显了面试者谦虚的特质，也向招生官表明，我不会自以为是，不会认为自己永远是工作的最佳和唯一人选。
所有这些都是未来专业人员所追求的关键品质，面试者虽然没有直接从字面上表明我是 learder”，我对自己和他人有道德责任感”，我有自我改进意识”，但是，从他所说的故事，我们却可以更加深刻地了解到ta具备这些特质。
